I have had a strained relationship with my youngest daughter for several years now.
Her mom and I have been divorced for almost a decade now but the timing of my leaving the household ( my daughter was 13years of age) could not have been any worse. Because we used be close. Leaving was worse then if I had never been in the home at all. I know that now.
My daughter has turned into your typical dependent; dependent on the government, dependent on the system a slave to her own self destructive behaviors and attitudes. For a number of years I have blamed myself for not reaching out to her more when she was still young and now I worry about not being more sympathetic to her situation and current circumstances.
What my daughter has become is exactly why I tend to be so pissed nowadays. I'm pissed at our political situation right now and I'm pissed at this president for turning our nation into political comedy theater. I can't help but to be pissed at black folks who willingly ignore the warnings signs about this disastrous presidency simply due to his skin color. But I am most pissed that my own flesh and blood has denied her upbringing and failed to use her high IQ to help herself become a productive and contributing member of society.
The seemingly stereotypical horrifying statistics that have been recited by black right wing bloggers hits a raw nerve with most black conservatives because we can see first hand the results of government dependency, lack of education and lack of focus . I'm not naive. I understand that the problems connected with fathers and daughters are nothing new and my situation is no different. My daughter engaging in self destructive behaviors on her own is bad enough. But she is now passing on her self destructive behaviors to her two children. And it's not just my daughter and her family's future that is at stake. We are losing a whole generation of black children to this nonsense! Yet another generation encouraged and rewarded for being permanent victims.
The reality of the situation is this; if you're a poor adult in America, for the most part, it's all your fault. That's true, at least today, whether you're black, white, brown or green. Even if you had a lousy childhood, or some trauma while you were young, unless you are retarded or disabled in some way, the past is no excuse to stay stuck, forever the victim, unless you want it to be that way. There are far too many ways to work your way out of poverty. But you have to do the work. And far too many do not have any desire and, thanks to the Democrat hand outs, no need to do the work it takes to become self-sustaining.
I will take to my grave the belief that my biggest mistake in life was not insisting that my youngest daughter come live with me when my ex and I separated. Maybe it was not the direct cause, but I believe that as a result of that mistake she will be forever chronically unemployed and socially inept. She is 22 and still does not have a high school diploma or even a GED. She is no dummy intellectually. But socially and emotionally, she is stuck on age 13. Perhaps forever. This type of situation is exactly the reason why way too many black folks have become government dependent.
How is it that I can have two daughters who turned out so differently? My oldest is doing well as a nurse and preparing herself to get her Masters in nursing. She is steadfast in her independence. The other daughter is the poster child for what happens to you when consistently choosing the wrong path through life. It results in a permanent state of anger and nauseating self pity.
There are approximately 36 million Americans living in poverty. As I struggle to figure out my daughters' situation I wonder how many of those folks living in poverty have skipped down the same self destructive path as her. Now that is a rhetorical question. I know exactly why my daughter is in the situation she is in - she is just lazy.
Recently I have been absorbed in guilt, wishing that I had the ability to go back in time to right my personal parental wrongs. Here I am this brooding right wing Negro blogger who rants against government dependency, liberalism and nanny state politics while his daughter is disappearing in societal quick sand. As much as I want to ellude the mental guilt of post marital child abandonment, I can't help but to think that her failures are my failures.
I've read the number; 70 percent of female-headed households are poor. A large percentage of poor people are children (17 percent). And 85 percent of black children living in poverty reside in a female-headed household.
But here is the funny thing, she is not living alone. She lives with a bum of a man who is unwilling or incapable of providing for her or his own child. So she has two children by two different colossal bums; stereotypical Negro malcontents, absolutely worthless human beings. And yet we are all supposed to feel sorry for her and all the less fortunate. Why? Because she chose to drop out of school (or not get her GED)? Because she chose to live and breed with thugs who do God knows what to her an her children? How can we help her when she won't help herself and give up her self-destructive life-style?
Leftists would leave you to believe that a kinder and friendlier government outreach would be in order to rescue the the ill prepared from their pre-ordained poverty stricken fate.
But is poverty pre-ordained? I think not. Take a married couple, both working full time at a minimum-wage job that pays $5.15 per hour. They would earn an annual income of $20,600. Not a lot. But enough. Keep in mind that few adults earn wages as low as the minimum wage and those who do earn a higher wage after a few months on the job. If a married couple both working at the minimum wage had no children, they would not be poor; if they had two children, they wouldn't be living in the lap of luxury, but neither would they be below the poverty threshold.
Now consider my daughter and her situation. Without a high school education she was working at the local airport making about $9.50 per hour. In a recent conversation she revealed that she quit that job because she did not get the raise she was promised. She said that she was going to take some time off to try and find a better paying job obviously oblivious to my previous rants informing her that not pursuing an education will permanently keep her in the shitty job category and any employer that does hire her is not obligated to raise her salary because finding another low wage uneducated moron is easy. So she quits a job to let the government care for her again. And calls me only when she wants money.
My guilt is running amuck, but the bottom line is nobody forced her to accept donations from sperm donors. George Wallace was not blocking the doors to the local high school forbidding her to enter and pursue her education and I doubt that she saw any commercials promoting the virtues to being poor, broke and uneducated in America. She is the poster child for why there are so many females struggling to make it in American society. She bought into the notion that being loved meant lying down with a man. She allowed herself to be disrespected because she has not self respect. And she continues to lie to herself about why she never has enough money. She has simply decided that living with a thug is more important then earning a decent living and taking care of her own needs.
Divorce or death of the father might explain a small part of why there are so many female-headed households. But the bulk of it is explained by people having children and not getting married in the first place. Having children is not an act of God. It's not like you're walking down the street and pregnancy strikes you; children are usually the result of a conscious decision. For the most part, poor young women saddled with kids they can't properly care for comes from the short-sighted, self-destructive behavior of one or two people. In the recent conversation I had with my daughter she also proudly revealed that since she has successfully navigated the section 8 bureaucracies she can live in her nice 3 bedroom 3 bath home with a large backyard for just a few dead presidents a month so she has more time to figure out her options. Goodie for her. Bad for us! It does not matter that her baby daddies are worthless pieces of shit because they (the fathers) are simply replaced by a government welfare check.
Most people with common sense knows that the secret for avoiding poverty is to finish high school and take a job, any kind of a job. And keep at it until/unless you have a better one lined up! Today, if a person graduates from high school, with even a C average, there is a college or some kind of skills training program somewhere for him or her, and often financial assistance to boot. So if a person doesn't take advantage of today's available opportunities and engages in self-destructive behavior, whose fault is it?
I remember a few years back when Bill Cosby got into the faces of black America
and spoke out about counterproductive ghetto behaviors. Silly ass Negros and leftist white people tried to crucify him for speaking frankly and calling attention to the self destructive behaviors that plague not just poor blacks but all poor people regardless of color.
Most of you no doubt have seen the audio clips of that horrible communist bitch Diane Watson praising the virtues of Fidel Castro and the Cuban health care system. The clips are viral throughout the right wing web. Many commenters have asked how could such a disgraceful idiot politician get elected to public office. Well just look at how many people today have their hand out jockeying for position to receive government table scraps. Watson, who inexplicable will publicly praise the virtues of Castro's communism, realizes that her elected role as black Santa (along with countless other liberal elected officials) provides that safety net for those who have fallen through the cracks due to the multitudes of families that struggle with ungrateful, and unmotivated children. When our children fail to live up to their God given potential they not only break our hearts, they turn into whining demanding dependent liberals.
As horrible as I make this sound, I still have some measure of hope... I did not just use that word... shit! Oh well, who knows - maybe her common sense will kick in some day. I will be there for her if the day ever comes that she pulls her head out and becomes more responsible for her own life. However, because of my personal guilt, it makes it difficult for me to read and blog about today's political scene because I, like so many other adults, must witness first hand how our parental missteps end up turning someone we loved into the backbone of the liberal Democrat political eco system.
If you have daughters or granddaughters give them a big hug the next time you see them.
A little more personal time, a few more hugs AND lots of encouragement as they navigate towards adulthood just may keep them from the clutches of liberalism... well it may not be that serious but at least you might have a lot of parental regrets down the road.
